It takes just a small handful of core insights and skills to transform the conflicts that sour an otherwise magnificent relationship. Do you know what they are?
Hi! Dr. Paige and Don Marrs here.
You know how you can absolutely love you mate but be over-the-top frustrated with the conflicts, misunderstandings, and disconnects that rob you of the love you're sure (or at least hope) is still under there somehwere?!
Maybe to the point your afraid you relationship might be in real trouble?
Well, we teach the core insights and skills needed to eliminate those repetitive, relationship-killing challenges so you can achieve the closeness and deep connection we all long for...
... even if only one of you (presumable you since you're reading this!) is ready to do something about it.
So, if you want your relationship to be a deep well of comfort and joy, a safe haven of mutual support and intimacy — despite the uncertainty, and distress many of us are experiencing — it's critical that you know the the formula, the how-to of dealing with the conflicts that inevitably emerge between two beloveds creating a life together.
Not just for the sake of your own happiness and well-being. But for those around you — kids, family, friends... all whom we hold dear.
A Handful of Proven Insights and Skills Makes All The Difference
It's completely normal – inevitable really – for two strong, intelligent adults to run into stubborn conflicts in their otherwise loving relationship.
But it's not inevitable that these challenges (as intrusive as they are these days) erode the quality and depth of your connection.
What would be different in your relationship if you could...
- Feel safe, confident, and fully able to transform conflict-provoking differences in a way that creates more understanding and leaves you feeling closer — and with real solutions that stick
- Transform unwanted repetitive patterns (URPs) that develop over time and keep sending you into the same arguments, misunderstandings, and stalemates — despite your best efforts to the contrary
- Dissolve the tension between you and get back to love, trust, and closeness — even before you have time to discuss and resolve whatever went wrong
- Approach even the touchiest of topics without triggering another heated argument or stony silence
- Communicate whatever's on your mind in ways that make it easy for your partner to really hear you — instead of getting cranky, defensive, or turning away
- Deepen your connection so that your ordinary, everyday experience is of the extraordinary love between you — even when circumstances around you are difficult
Academic Underpinnings
The Extraordinary Relationship Formula™ Program — whether delivered privately or in groups, face-to-face or online — includes a powerful combination of research-based methods and decades of personal and professional experience.
For those who might be interested in the academic underpinnings, our approach blends:
- A cutting-edge communication theory (CMM) that sees communication as a creative act through which we create the quality of our relationships
- Emerging insights about the neurobiology of love and connection, as well as the neurobiology of defensiveness and fear (aka: the lizard brain, which explains the cute little stuffed green guy that Paige is holding in the pic of her leading a workshop)
- The new field of interpersonal neurobiology, founded by Dr. Daniel Siegel, which further illuminates how the brain, body, and mind function in the context of relationships.
And if you really want to geek out on this, the first two disciplines above were central to Paige's doctoral research on the enactment of fear in conversations-gone-bad.
